When you think of hot sex , do you envision hooking up with someone youve fantasizing about for the first time? Or do you picture a roll in the hay with the partner youve been sharing a bed with for the better part of a decade? Probably the former. Many people simply dont believe good sex and long-term partnership go hand in hand.

But it turns out, there are couples whove been together a while and still really enjoy having sex with each other. (Yep, they do exist!)

We wanted to know these couples sex secrets: How do they keep things steamy for so long? So we went straight to the source. Heres what they told us.

1. They dont limit sex to the bedroom.

We have a toddler who sleeps in the bed with us so we have to be creative and find other places to have sex. Its kind of fun and naughty to have sex in places other than the bed! It enhances our sex life because it keeps sex different each time! Lina Forrestal , host of The New Mamas Podcast

My partner and I will often sneak away at clubs and bars and head to the bathroom to blow each other. The excitement of public play can transfer to excitement with and for your partner. Zachary Zane , sex columnist and sex expert for Momentum Intimacy

2. They take penetration off the menu from time to time.

Counterintuitive, but when we started doing oral only nights, our sex life reached a new level. Going back and forth, getting close to climax and then pulling back (or edging ), led to new positions, variations and satisfaction. Ashleigh Renard , author of Swing and Keeping It Hot: The Workbook

3. Or they take breaks from sex altogether.

The thing that improved my sex life the most is a bit counterintuitive: I stopped having sex altogether. My partner of seven years and I will periodically agree on lengths of time in which we take sex off the table completely. Instead of having sex, we talk about sex. We ask each other specific questions like: what are the ways in which your desires are changing? These periods of intentional abstinence help break any sexual patterns I find myself slipping into. They also strengthen my capacity to actually talk about sex and desire in a nuanced way, which ultimately makes the sex itself better. Amanda L.

4. They sleep naked.

When you sleep naked and rub up against each other, you often end up getting erect or horny, and before you know it, youre having sex! So sleeping naked is a way to naturally increase how often you and your partner have sex. Zane