Payal Desai is on a mission to make sure shes raising boys who can take care of themselves and their emotions.

The teacher and mom from New Jersey is going viral on TikTok for sharing a series of life lessons that shes giving her sons Carter, 7, and Dev, 3.

The videos which are soundtracked to Lunizs 1995 hit I Got 5 On It and conclude with Desai deadpanning to the camera show the mom of two teaching the boys how to be non-dusty husbands to their future partners. (For the unfamiliar, your dusty son has become something of a meme lately; to be dusty is to exhibit an undesirable mix of laziness and general scrub-like behavior .)

In one viral clip , she encourages Carter to make space for his feelings so hell know its normal to express whats going on inside when hes in a relationship. Teaching my son to write down his feelings when hes upset so your daughter wont have to deal with his impulsive outbursts, her caption reads.