Gwyneth Paltrow Shares Her Honest Take On Becoming A Stepmom

Gwyneth Paltrow  knows firsthand the challenges of becoming a blended family.

During a talk at the Visionary Womens International Womens Day Summit on Wednesday, Paltrow quipped that taking on the role of stepparent is a bitch, right guys? 

I really like to talk about this because its one of my biggest learnings as a human being, the Goop founder said, according to People magazine . And my area of growth personally came from the initial difficult relationship I had with my stepkids and now theyre like my kids. 

The Oscar winner said the transition was really rough, but she found a way to make it work. 

Its almost like you have to embody the spirit of the sun and just give and not expect anything back, Paltrow explained. I just learned to try to just keep shining like the sun and never keeping score. 

The Iron Man 3 actor has two children with her ex, Coldplay singer Chris Martin. Paltrow became a stepmom in 2018, when she married her now-husband, producer Brad Falchuk, who also has two kids.

Paltrow has opened up before about the turning point in her relationship with her two stepchildren , saying she found it really hard at first. 

You know, theres no book on this nobody tells us what to do, she explained during an Instagram Q&A last year. And, in fact, all of the existing media around what a stepmother is casts us is like, in this evil, villainous light.

She continued, For myself, the minute I decided and fully embodied the idea that my stepkids were my kids and I love them just as much, and I gave them the same rules and boundaries and just kind of wholeheartedly went for it, then the easier the whole thing got.

But now, Paltrow said, things are pretty great.